I Need To Vent

I am pissed. Really pissed. Overall, I have a good relationship with my husband's ex-wife, but she does this one thing that makes me want to pull my (or her) hair out. Which she just did again today.

Sharon is a good mom, truly, but she put my step-daughters in this ultracompetitive soccer league when they were 8 and 10. ULTRA-competitive. These girls could kick a grown man's ass. My husband and I do not agree with it, and because the games are usually an hour away (or more), we rarely go. We made it very clear that we would like to see any games nearby, but alas there are none. She thinks we hate sports and don't want to be involved in Carrie and Ally's life, but really we just think that a sport should not consume a child's life.

THEN, the other day we were in the grocery store and bumped into my husband's aunt. She told us how well Carrie did at her track meet. We did not even know about the meet, but it was far away, so whatever. So we emailed Sharon and said that we would love to see any track meets that were coming up. She emailed back and said that that was the last one. Oh and she was "surprised" that we never came to any other ones because, well, didn't we know that Carrie had been having track meets every Wednesday TWO BLOCKS AWAY FROM US???!!! NO, we did NOT know, because that passive aggresive bitch somehow neglected to TELL us about the meets. Bitch.

The thing is, Sharon is a little warped. If we approached her, she would say that she told us about the meets or she would twist the argument in some way to make us look bad. She DEFINES passive-aggression. So saying anything is out of the question. But I have noticed that we get absolutely bombarded with soccer emails, yet NEVER hear about any school function. Every time there has been an Open House, Science Fair Exhibit, or any other school activity (like track meets!), we find out about it two hours before or, more often, days later.* I don't even think she fully realizes that she does this, but it has happened too many times to be a coincidence.

The OTHER thing is that Sharon is a major gossip, so I have no doubt that she is sitting at those meets saying things to other parents like, "Gee I don't why her dad and step-mom aren't here. Probably because they don't support the girls being in sports." This does not bother my husband at all because he couldn't care less if people think he is the antichrist. But it bothers ME. And I am powerless, for now.

The OTHER other thing is that Sharon thinks she is not responsible for informing us of anything since we can call the school anytime. But she IS responsible since SHE is the one that receives stuff that the school sends home. And what are we supposed to do, call the school every week and say, "Oh I was just checking if there were any events this week? No? Oh okay thanks! Talk to you next week!" Don't you think that it is not too much to ask her to send an email saying, "Hey, Carrie has track meets Wednesday. Let me know if you want to go!" Of course, her fingers are probably tired little worn down nubs from all of the typing she does to email us about every fucking five-hours-away soccer meet. Bitch.


So here is my plan:

This school year is almost over so it is not worth the effort right now. But next year, I am going up to that school and I am giving every single teacher my phone number and email, and I am going to tell them to contact me for every single school event. And I will be calling Sharon a lot, too. Oh yes, a LOT. Like daily. "Any events today? No? Talk to you tomorrow!" She may define passive-aggression, but I am going to define annoying. And pestering. And very VERY involved. I will show up at school to help them wipe their asses if I have to.

The thing about me is that I am a nice person. A REALLY nice person. And very patient and all that good stuff -- UNTIL you cross my line. And then I am a cruel, vindictive, relentless bitch.

After seven years of dealing with this woman's mind games, my line has offically been crossed. Game ON, beeyatch.



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*There was a school art auction that Sharon told us about recently, which we went to. But that was very much the exception to the rule.